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It is all we hear these days – but isn’t it just a technical process tool that increase speed and quality – in the things we did before AI?
And even if AI is much more than that – isn’t it necessary to reflect on what AI brings to the table?
And if so – that you have to analyse and potentially adjust what AI brings to the table – how?
People – are they even necessary in the equation?
I am asking – isn’t humans the key building blocks for human success anymore? And is success even clearly defined?
Result
Or process?
Well, what if THIS is right (er) | mindset guides behaviour – which drives result.
Then, the start of deliberate success, isn’t that, deliberate mindset?
If so..
How did you set yours?
Mindset?
Here we grow – a new neuron plant, inside your brain, so you can grow smarter, from yet another perspective?
WHAT if soft skills are more important than we are aware – now more than ever, in this age of AI?
Soft skills are even MORE important than ever before BECAUSE of the challenge with AI, that we seemingly follow what it brings us, – without even reflecting on the quality of what comes, and that it might be wrong. Because AI is not perfect, or?
Well – nothing is perfect, and the strength of being human is that we are all the same – unique. And what we then bring to the table is that – our uniqueness, which is?
The same.
Perspective.
What we need more than ever is not AI but human perspectives – or the act of being human together – then called “perspectivation”. The act of seeing something from another point of view – ALSO.
That is – from my point of view as probably old, compared to the latest acronym for the “latest generation” z – x – y, whatever, the most important skill for the future is PERSPECTIVATION.
Or?
So – what is the fundamental skill for seeing and using different perspectives if not – CONNECTION?
Here is a question to reflect on. I currently re-write the book – the 6 super-soft skills | the Iceberg diving into the best version of you, alone and socially, and this reflection is the start of
CONNECTION chapter (2).
How good are you DELIBERATELY connecting with someone?
This question is about how you and the other person can use each others perspective.
Some 10 years ago or so (2017) Tasha Eurich`s book
“Insight, why we are not as self-aware as we think, and how seeing ourselves clearly helps us succeed in work and life”
stated that 85% of us are (at least in some situations, my added reflection) not self-aware.
Here is a youtube book review on this book https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qV24BtYx44o
The bad news of this book – after you wake up, is Victor Frankl`s book – “Mans search for meaning” in which he brings up an even more fundamental component in self-awareness | that is not taken into account in her book (the way I read the book), and that is the point of
“there is a space between stimuli and response
– as Victor Frankl says in his amazing book. Why are we here, what is the reason for living. What is the end goal. In short – the process is, and the goal is HOW you live, and he then state the wording.. as read above.
There is a space between something happening and what you do.
Victor was a holocaust survivor and with that back-draft the book is amazingly strong in its message of hope, that YOU CAN CHOOSE how you live your life, and based on the deliberate way you then choose to live, based on that fact that you CAN decide how your life is live – this, how you live, brings me to another book
“The five regrets of the dying”, (what I read as a book about living a more deliberate life). I suggest you use these 5 insights brought to life by Bronnie Ware (out in 2011) – to do some reversed design living – that then end goal in life – should be set out, NOW, and then you could use these insights (and the other reflections in this text, book – that I am writing on) to set up your own personal guidance system so you can guide both the conscious and unconscious thoughts you have, 70 000 thoughts, per day – deliberately growing as a person, everyday more fully.
Any way – here is her great TED talk youtube video | if nothing else THIS one you should look at
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAcQfn96yFk
Then “Multipliers” from Liz Wiseman sold the message (same year as Eurichs insight book) of
“how the best leaders make everyone smarter”,
In which – from my humble understanding is
that there are two “kinds of people/leaders” – diminishers and multipliers. She was then (again – from my understanding) bringing to market that you might not be aware that – when standing on the shoulders of others you either make them weaker (dumber) or stronger (smarter) by the way you behave.
A small reflection – in which way I used the “wake up call” deliberately..
The side-kick, I woke up from the book (again – waking up seems like I do often, as in growing self-awareness), bringing the question – are you a diminisher or multiplier – when I went to visit my wifes parenst (oma and opa of our daughter Emma) – and I was frankly speaking afraid that I was behaving like a diminisher in our social gatherings, but – it was not as bad as I was afraid of.. what about you, do you inspire and bring out people – or do you reduce their willingness and ability to be them self fully? In sense the question is are you a bully (or not)?
I was – kind of ok.. based on the interpreted answers through behaviour..
How about you – go check it out on internet, Liz Wiseman, multipliers.. check it out here small ”shorts” videos ..
Here is a 4 min short video | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HxLlgBATjpI
“Optimal, how to sustain excellence everyday” by Golman and Cherniss – from my understanding “sold the message of “Emotional intelligence can be a key for now and future success”, bringing forward that there are at least three kinds of empathy to be aware of when living in a social world together with other people.
Emotional.
Cognitive.
And the most important aspects, after the other two is ok – emotional concern, or CARING about another human being in a way that you care about how they are on a human level.
Here is a 11 minute great video | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cr8sLxde1m8
Jamil Zaki`S hbr article “Every team needs a super-facilitator” focus around collaboration – how some kind of behaviour adds value and some behaviour reduce peoples ability to contribute – and yes, it sounds a bit like “multiplier book principle”, but, this is team collaboration, how can you get people to come forward with their contributions in a way that EVERYONE build on one another. You find it here | https://hbr.org/2025/09/every-team-needs-a-super-facilitator
And last but not least Charles Duhiggs “Super-communicator – how to unlock the secret language of Connection” brings to market – how we act, behave – communicates, is all about the starting point of | here is the 9 min book review | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=308NQsiDrcE
= the fundamental skill – for all soft skills (if we don’t say self-awareness is a skill – but it is).. is CONNECTION.
How good are you deliberately connecting to another human being?
, and then, when connected, how do you grow a lasting connection – which also could be called a relationship?
And when you grow a relationship – based on what? How?
What is the end in mind goal for building and using relationships – if not, the process, of, together?
(with AI)?
I don’t know, I am just asking.
What are your reflections here?
(I am bringing to market that there is a soft-skill system, from concentration via 4 other c (soft-skills) all the way to potentially the humanly most important soft-skill of them all, after you got the fundamental connection in check, how to grow a deliberate mindset-behaviour-result process, the soft-skill of culture-growing, which by the way is ALL about perspectivation, TOGETHER).
HERE we grow – together
This is all a part of the book (in writing) – “The Iceberg, best version of you, is done TOGETHER”.
You have any thoughts – wises, questions, that I should take into account?
Or do you want a free 20 min coaching test, info@apl3i.com or my website for synergizing leadership is here www.synergizing-leadership.com
Here we grow